3 Mindset Shifts to Bring Your Family Closer to God

Our mindset shapes our attitudes, motivations, and actions, even when it comes to our faith. If we view spiritual practices like prayer, going to church, or reading the Bible as burdens or must-dos, they can transform into tasks we begrudgingly check off a list. This mindset limits the joy and connection we can experience in our relationship with Jesus.

On the other hand, when we intentionally shift our perspective to see these practices as privileges, our hearts become more open to (and aware of) God in our everyday moments. Sometimes, even a tiny reframe can significantly impact our spiritual growth. Explore three powerful mindset shifts that can strengthen your family’s spiritual foundation and draw you each closer to God.

Mindset Shift 1: From Busy to Present

It’s time we all face a fundamental truth about family life: It doesn’t really ever slow down. We keep thinking it will. We keep talking about it like it will. We even put off certain things for when it does. But, my friend, your busy schedule isn’t changing anytime soon. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind about what that means.

During His ministry on earth, Jesus’ schedule never slowed down either. Once He started His ministry, He could have chosen to work 24/7, to double book healings, and to be in two places at once. And, through our eyes, we’d totally understand and probably support that way of thinking. After all, Jesus knew He had a lot to get done in a short amount of time. The work and the needs of the people around Him never let up. (Sounds like family life!)

But Jesus never failed to be present in the moment. He never ran from one appointment to another. Instead, He moved at an intentional pace. In the middle of a crowd, His focus on the present even helped Him feel the slightest movement of the fringe of His garment.

“Just then a woman who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak. She said to herself, ‘If I only touch his cloak, I will be healed.’ Jesus turned and saw her. ‘Take heart, daughter,’ he said, ‘your faith has healed you.’ And the woman was healed at that moment” (Matthew 9:20-22).

Practical Ideas to Practice a Present Mindset

• Take a Digital Detox – Designate specific times each day (or week) when screens are off-limits. This can be during meals, bedtime, or dedicated “unplugged” hours.
• Practice a Family Sabbath – Set aside one day each week for rest and worship. This could involve attending church, going to small group, spending time in nature, or simply engaging in activities that recalibrate your family’s heart and mind on Jesus.
• Disconnect from Social Media – Take a break from social media to reduce distractions and focus on present-moment experiences.

Mindset Shift 2: From Perfect to Progress

We’ve all seen at least one: The “Have It All Together” Family. This family is always impeccably dressed as if heading to a professional photoshoot. Each child carries a Bible at church, and the 5th grader even brings a well-used prayer journal. You’ve witnessed the son hold open the door for his mom and sister. And the sister politely responds, “Thank you.” The whole family even hugs each other after services and happily agrees on where to eat for lunch.

This family is a myth. While we all may experience moments of having it all together—especially on our social media accounts—it’s not sustainable or real. Family life is messy. We make mistakes as parents. Siblings argue. Then, we yell at them to stop yelling. Tweens and teens make unwise choices. And, hey, we make unwise choices, too.

It’s time to let go of the “perfect Christian family” ideal and instead shift your mind to being a “making progress toward Jesus” kind of family. Growing to be like Jesus is a lifelong pursuit. From the moment you (and each member of your family) became a Christian, you’re running a race toward Him, the only perfect human ever. Paul puts it this way:

“Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it….I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 3:12-16

Practical Ideas to Practice a Progressing Spiritually  Mindset

• Prioritize Grace – Extend grace to yourself, your family, and others. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and forgiveness is essential for spiritual growth.
• Celebrate the Wins – Recognize small victories and the progress you’ve made as a family. For example, if your child chooses to head to his room rather than yell back at his sister, commend him on his self-control, a fruit of the Spirit.
• Talk about Jesus – Create a safe and supportive environment where family members can share their questions, feelings, and faith struggles without fear of judgment. We will never fully understand God, so normalize wrestling with a scripture passage or modern-day application.

Mindset Shift 3: From Obligation to Joy

Too often, going to church, praying, or serving together can feel like boxes we need to check off. As a kid in church, I remember my Dad using a pen to put a checkmark in the worship guide as we progressed through the service. And I may have mentally picked up that habit occasionally.

However, when your family recognizes these activities as “get-tos” instead of “have-tos,” your perspective changes. Attending church becomes a privilege, a chance to worship God alongside a community of believers. Praying before dinner transforms from a rote routine into a daily expression of gratitude to our Creator.  Serving others stops being a duty and becomes an opportunity to be the hands and feet of Christ. This simple shift in how you approach spiritual practices invites joy into your family’s relationship with God.

Practical Ideas to Shift from Obligation to Joy

• Turn Serving Into a Family Tradition – Make serving others a family tradition during holidays or special occasions, like preparing meals for a local shelter during Thanksgiving or always volunteering in Kids on Christmas Eve.
• Be Intentional with Your Words – Use language that emphasizes privilege and opportunity. Saying, “We get to pray together” or “We have the chance to serve this weekend” can reshape how the rest of the family perceives these moments.
• Practice “Thankfulness Check-ins” – Take time each week to reflect as a family on what you’re grateful for, emphasizing how God is present in your lives.